If you feel that your sex life has a tendency to become boring, there are many ways you can break the monotony and add some spice to it. Sex toys in relationships can certainly bring a lot of flavour and excitement to your couple; the only thing you must be careful about is how you introduce them into your bedroom.

Creating a balance between your partner’s ego and your own needs can be tricky business. You need patience and diplomacy to create a union between your lover and the sex toys you have in mind. If you do not approach the matter wisely, your attempt to boost your sex life may end up in disaster. Yet, if you are persuasive enough to make your partner understand that toys are just an additional vehicle, not a replacement for what you have previously had together, you are in for a huge reward.

Here are some steps to help you introduce sex toys into your partner’s repertoire:

Educate yourself before you educate your lover
In order to take your partner to a higher level you must become a ‘sexpert’ yourself. There are many available options to complete this task; Sex Toys 101, by Rachel Venning and Claire Cavanah looks like the best start. It is easy to read and full of vivid imagery, which will soon turn you into a knowledgeable and creative lover. You can read the book with your partner. It will be fun and a quicker method to raise your lover’s interest in sex play as well.

Choose the right time to convert your partner
If you think that surprising your partner with a sex toy during the act will make them cooperative, you are wrong. You must definitely talk about what you are going to do before you engage on a sex adventure. Few like such surprises and even fewer would enjoy facing disagreement on sex matters. Make sure you acknowledge your partner’s concerns regarding toys while sharing your fantasies. If your lover understands that toys are not meant to replace human intimacy but to enhance it, the two of you will find the perfect way to keep love alive.

Find the proper aid together
Go shopping for sex toys together. Stores are crammed with attractive options for both sexes. Seeing and touching the items in the store will give your lover lots of ideas. Encourage your partner to choose something for you and for him or her as well. If either of you is a novice user, go for something basic first. Anxiety will be alleviated little by little, as the two of you get into the habit of picking and using ever more sophisticated toys every day.